Starting my
day just like every regular day when I got a call from Eve; but why must she
be calling me this early; it’s just 7am... And then she started yelling happy
birthday over the phone, oh my it is my birthday; not that am that surprise but
I decided not to pay attention to the date, I did say thanks you but "thank you" in this context means “what the fuck”
welcome to my world where I fear growing up
and the uncertainty that comes with change, Ya unlike every girl/one am not
always happy about the addition of the one year thing, Well am not ready to be
an adult taking responsibility for my every action especially when I don’t make
the best of choice, I really
dread adult hood. The fact that I don’t want to grow but each passing day nature
forces growth on me; “what the hell! Why don’t I have a choice in this”, I thought
life is all about choices, it worse because now I get to make decision that I
can’t blame my childish nature on.
Then she continued
by saying most of my child hood friends are in town and she wanted us all to do
some catching up especially because we haven’t seen after each of us went different
direction in pursuit of higher education, according to her “today would just be
perfect to celebrate a reunion and my birthday” my heart started racing hearing
the word REUNION, the thought of the subject of the discussion that could come
up… can I hold up with the pretence that I enjoy their talk about work, the men
in their life and advice on how I would cope in my last days in the university
which intimidate me, if only she knew how bad I hated meeting old friends; I
hated the fact that I had to chip in a lie or two just to have sum ting interesting
to say that I get caught up in my web of lies and can’t keep up. I feared the fact that I was 21 and
still didn’t figured out what am going to do with my life even more alarming
now that this bae decided to remind me that am plus one and they are going to
celebrate to mock that.
Being plus
one has its effect on me but aside from that, the fear of making mistakes
accompanied to choices I make is a never ending phobia that accompany me day by
day; The fact that I
might not fit the social standard of what the pictures on Instagram tell, I
might preach it doesn’t matter but inside me I know it does because my life
would be more comforting than being broke, the fear that I might not go home
with not too good grade since mom is always bragging about my intellectuals, Perhaps
the assumption that making mistakes will lead to some terrible consequence that
can’t be corrected or undone, like the monthly fear I entertain; what if I
become a mother (fuck! my mom wont forgive me), am afraid that things don’t
turn out the way I expect and am going to be judged by it, am afraid that the
people who love me will eventually turn their back because I let them down, I
fear the fact that am expected to get married to a prince charming… when by now
I don’t have a frog to call my own. Not to talk of the thought of being jobless
after the BSC chase (well I do find solace in the unemployment situation of the
country… lol)
The messages
we receive from others, including friends and the media, probably might play a
role in this daily struggle of the fear of the unknown the thing is primitive
fear instincts are as important for self and choice examining that gets us to a
better phase and if we did make some mistakes so be it life is beautiful
because it isn’t perfect. The world is such a crazy place and these are things
that tie us to our creator; the fear of the unknown I believe make us have
faith especially knowing we don’t have the power to change everything.
“I don’t
have the world in my hand and its ok not to know tomorrow” that is what I tell
myself each time this daily fear creeps in, so for today am wearing a red lips with
a pair of heels, keep my glass full and jolly the night away, not every day a
person gets to be plus one and benefits from a free party.